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document.write('<br /><img src=\"http://z.about.com/d/stress/1/0/X/-/-/-/BlogFriendlySunsetChat.gif\" width=\"170\" height=\"124\" align=\"right\" border=\"0\">We all deal with times of stress and crisis.  How we<a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/copingwithcrisis/ht/coping.htm\">cope with our personal challenges</a> can have a significant impact on the level of stress we experience--especially <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/stressmanagementglossary/g/Chronicstress.htm\">chronic stress</a>, which is the most damaging type.  When crisis strikes, how do you cope?<p> Speaking as a \'<a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/bio/Elizabeth-Scott-M-S-17577.htm\">stress management expert</a>\', I would say that the first line of defense against stress in times of crisis is to check how you perceive what\'s happening to you, and try to <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/optimismspirituality/ht/optimisthowto.htm\">think like an optimist</a>.  When I say \'think like an optimist\', I\'m not merely throwing out a vague suggestion that you \'try to be happy\'--there are specific thought patterns that optimists follow when facing challenges and stressors; pessimists have opposite patterns.  (Follow these tips to develop <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/optimismspirituality/a/optimismbenefit_2.htm\">traits of optimists</a>, and <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/optimismspirituality/a/optimismquiz.htm\">test your level of optimism</a> now, so you can know where you\'re coming from--you may be surprised!)  A quick strategy to keep in mind is to try to see potential stressors as a <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/b/2008/08/07/threat-vs-challenge.htm\">challenge vs. a threat</a>.<p> I would also suggest that you find supportive resources in order to manage your situation and experience minimal stressors in your life while you\'re going through tough times.  In times of stress, the people in your life can be the most helpful resources: they can offer supportive ears (and warm arms), creative solutions to problems you face, and practical help in the form of dinners and the like.  (Perhaps this is why research shows so many <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/relationships/a/friendskills.htm\">benefits of social support</a>.)<p> I would also recommend that you maintain at least one (but preferably <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/tensiontamers/a/stressrelievers.htm\">as many as you need</a>) way to relieve stress that really works for you.  It could be <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/tensiontamers/p/profilemeditati.htm\">meditation</a>, <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/programsandpractices/a/exercise.htm\">exercise</a>, <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/lowstresslifestyle/a/daily_music.htm\">music</a>, or <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/optimismspirituality/a/22307_God_power.htm\">prayer</a>.  Just find something that works for you, and make it a regular part of your life.<p> These are my recommendations as a stress expert, but personally, we all have our own ways of coping with stress.  Effective coping usually involves a combination of strategies to address thoughts about the situation, a mobilization of resources, and some ways to calm the body in the meantime, as mentioned above.  However, the specific strategies we choose may differ from person to person.  I often try <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/positiveattitude/a/reframing.htm\">reframing</a> and <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/positiveattitude/a/gratitude.htm\">gratitude work</a>, talk to those I\'m close to (my husband and best friends), and try to get plenty of <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/programsandpractices/a/exercise.htm\">exercise</a>, try to keep up with prayer or <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/tensiontamers/p/profilemeditati.htm\">meditation</a>--and have a stash of <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/b/2009/01/14/de-stress-by-chocolate.htm\">chocolate</a> (which I only recommend as a stress reliever in small doses). For others, a different combination of stress relievers would be the winning combination, though it might be similar.  <p> I recently asked readers to share their strategies for coping with crisis, and have received some nice responses so far.   <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/u/ua/readerresponses/Crisis-Coping-Crisis-Coping-Techniques.htm\">Read responses from other readers</a> who have great ideas, and please consider <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/u/ua/readerresponses/Crisis-Coping-Crisis-Coping-Techniques.htm#ua_form\">sharing your own tips that work</a>.  Remember, when it comes to the stresses we face in life, we\'re all in this together! <p> <b>Also Recommended:<ul> <li><a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/copingwithcrisis/ht/coping.htm\">Crisis Coping Strategies</a><p></li> <li><a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/copingwithcrisis/ht/coping.htm\">More on How to Cope with a Crisis</a><p></li> <li><a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/tensiontamers/a/coping_with_stress.htm\">Coping With Stress: Two Methods, Great Results</a><p></li> <li><a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/gi/pages/stay.htm\">Get the Free Weekly Newsletter on Stress</a><p></li> <li><a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/b/2010/04/02/relieve-stress-on-facebook.htm\">Join the Stress Management Group on Facebook</a><p></li></ul></b> <p style=\"background:#f5f3ef;border:1px solid #d5d0bf;clear:both;padding:.5em;\"><a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/b/2010/09/03/get-by-with-a-little-help-from-your-friends-2.htm\">Get By With A Little Help From Your Friends</a> originally appeared on <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/\">About.com Stress Management</a> on Friday, September 3rd, 2010 at 06:33:32.</p><p><a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/b/2010/09/03/get-by-with-a-little-help-from-your-friends-2.htm\">Permalink</a> | <a href=\"http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/b/2010/09/03/get-by-with-a-little-help-from-your-friends-2.htm#gB3\">Comment</a> | <a href=\"http://stress.about.com/gi/pages/shareurl.htm?PG=http://stress.about.com/b/2010/09/03/get-by-with-a-little-help-from-your-friends-2.htm&#038;zItl=Get By With A Little Help From Your Friends\">Email this</a></p>');
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